I think everyone goes through stages in their life when they kind of lose who they are, I know I definitely have and it makes me feel indecisive and lacking any sort of confidence.
I remember going through it in those awkward teenage years when I wanted to be in the group which meant bending my personality and taste to reflect my peer group; then there was when I was in a long term relationship and almost my husband and I became one in terms of identity; and most recently my individual identity has become dominated by the job of being a mother and the two little girls I adore.
I think it is totally natural that this happens : it is what being human is all about, wanting to be liked and loving someone so completely. However it is only recently that I have realised I need to have my own identity too and not just be the badges of mother or whatever I wear. I can be me and have a little bit of separateness without it having to be at the expense of anything.
So that is what I am trying to do: trying to find the essence of me and what I like without practicalities and realities getting in the way. And of course the natural way I kind of start this journey is through my clothes and my style because if I look good I feel good. What did I like to wear before the girls, before I felt that I had to wear what a "mother" had to wear .
It is so refreshing to focus on me for a while and to work towards becoming more centred and confident. I know I am not the only one probably feeling like this, if you are too just know you are not alone and feel free to share your story with me.
I have come to realise that is so important to work on myself and it is not selfish or something I have to apologise for or put behind the needs of other. Lets see where this journey takes me.